A lifelong commitment to new choices is a long life of happiness. Like many people, my own life path was not a straight line. I started as a photographer, and as i took more and more photos, I saw life, and the people in it, through the semi-objective lens of the camera. I went on to shoot and help create films and documentary content that touched on the human condition and also worked the glamorous Red Carpets of Hollywood as a cameraperson. Through all of this, I began to see that no amount of apparent success a person might achieve would guarantee happiness. I also observed that unless people adjusted their ways of thinking and feeling, they would not attain true inner success and find the life passion that would sustain them long term. Just like the scripts and stories I helped bring to the screen, it all comes down to the outline, the story we tell ourselves. My journey of the understanding of patterns and manifestation began as the youngest of 5, growing up in a house more complicated than the 'Brady Bunch' where my oldest brother was 16 years older than me. I spent a lot of time watching, listening and observing the patterns being played out over and over again by the people that surrounded me. So much so, that I started to predict their next moves, some of which were not ones that ended up being good, or positive to them, or their well-being. I also witnessed some of my family members make hard decisions and manifest seemingly impossible gains into their lives against all odds and they would repeatedly tell me, "Don't let anyone ever tell you, 'you can't', you can do anything you want, anything is possible. Just know where you come from and who you are", they would say.
They would always give me examples of successes they or our other family members achieved when everything was against them, including people telling them it was impossible. I often passed on this wisdom and because I could recognize friends' patterns, many started to ask my advice from a young age. Later in life, people would tell me I saved them decades of therapy and business management help. Mostly, what I instilled in them was confidence and the ability to not listen to others’ negative views of what they were doing. Additionally, I seemed to always know where and to whom they needed to connect. I was always super social, so I guess I became a bit of a connector as well. I just provided the next step out the door, which seemed to be all they really needed to get out of where they were currently feeling. I received a lot of hugs. Still dig those. :) Although I could help others my entire life, and became a go to person, at the time, I couldn't fully recognize why I knew intuitively how to help people. Most people would say, "it's just something you are born with, the gift to help others." I hadn't consciously connected the dots of my family with the advice I gave, and in spite of my ability to help direct others, materializing my own desired results still seemed to always come with a big price, lots of difficulty and roadblocks. Regardless of my ability to give sound advise and all the amazing things I made happen for me and my 'friends', these same people would still tell me, "there is no way you'll be able to do that". Each time, I'd get what I manifested anyway. And then somehow, I would lose it or it would fall apart or finish poorly. For the life of me, I couldn’t figure out WHY.
When asking my family for advice on this matter, they would tell me to 'stay positive', 'turn the page' or 'the wheel will turn upward eventually' or 'if you don't give up, it will happen eventually'. Whilethis is all good advice, funny that the same people who instilled in me the ability to give others advice, could not truly advise past their basic repeated mantras and none of them knew why the same things kept happening to me over and over again. After being able to help everyone else with their problems, when it came to my own life, I still asked, “Why Me? I can’t understand why I would be treated like this” or“Why I can’t make this happen after I worked SO HARD?" or "I can't believe this happened again!”. Apparently, I repeated this so many times that my old roommate would put his hand over my mouth and stop me from saying it every time I would tell him a story of disaster with complete confusion. Something was missing from this puzzle.
One day, I received a random email about 'manifestation'. I was so intrigued, I began studying the people considered master manifestors. The more I read, the more I realized I had been practicing these principles since as long as I could remember and so had my family that had made incredible successes occur in spite of all the odds. There was a name for all this??? Wait, so if one person did all the different advice actions I had given to different people, all together at once, it would be even more powerful and make new results come faster??? I was so excited, I began giving advice to people using the word manifestation rather than 'my advice', combined everything I had been handing out in pieces to different people into one lesson and everyone around me got everything they wanted and So Did I! It came so much easier than in the past and it was amazing! Unfortunately, not everyone, but many of us who manifested results must faster, still lost these miraculous results we soeffortlessly brought about over time or would get stuck on the first stages of getting what we wanted. It seemed I was at square one again. I went back to many of my slower manifesting students I gave advise to before the word 'manifestation' and saw that many of them too had gotten stuck or lost what they originally manifested at first. It was great that if we all followed the combined steps of manifestation, we could all manifest anything we wanted, but how would we keep it? Through deep contemplation, I went back to the beginning and that is where I remembered all the patterns I had witnessed in my family and surroundings when I was young. In fact, I realized I was playing out all the patterns I witnessed so close to my heart, in one way or another. Of course my family couldn't recognize my patterns, that these were in fact the problem, or tell me how to get out of them, because they were inside of this tangled web and they were the root of the matter as well. I realized these patterns are the keys to everything and if we didn’t change them, they would creep back in once we manifested what makes us happy, and we would never truly make lifelong results that would stick. This was also the moment when I realized that it was my family who gave me my patterns yet ironically was also the key to all of my abilities to give advice. The source of my patterns was also the source of this unconscious training I received daily which made me 'see' patterns and also gave me undying confidence even when I was at my lowest moments. My family are master manifestors and don't know it, yet were playing out some hard patterns simultaneously. Wow! What a combo!
It occurred to me, "Are we all master manifestors and don't know it??? And are we all playing patterns out that always deliver the same results???" The work I’ve done as a photographer, content maker, camera person- as a master observer- combined with what I discovered in my lifetime about ways of thinking, patterns, and manifesting has allowed me to realize my own life’s passion, which is helping others to improve their own lives. Every time one of my clients shares with me the ways in which their lives and their happiness has improved after working with me, my heart is lifted. Since then, I have spent years testing exercises to break patterns and manifest permanent results. To break patterns, you must change your feelings permanently. To change your feelings, you must also change your thoughts.
To make permanent results, you must make a lifelong commitment to change your patterns and just like you will always go to the gym to keep your body in shape, you must exercise your mind every single day.
A lifelong commitment to making new choices is a long life of happiness.
Be the MVP of your MBP. Most Valuable Player of your Mind, Body, Present.